• THE CONFIDENCE GUIDE

Everyone needs a little help from time to time when it comes to feeling confident. Whether you’re gearing up for a job interview or heading out on a first date, there are plenty of tips and tricks to help you feel more confident in the moment.

Here, our CB12 experts guide you through their top tips for feeling your most confident self, whatever your plans.


Honey Langcaster–James

Psychologist and Life Coach

Prep, prep, prep

Planning and preparation are key for boosting confidence. If you’re feeling self-conscious ahead of a big event, take the time to run through every detail, down to the outfit you are going to wear. Visualising how the day will run will help you feel more at ease and minimise any surprises on the day.

First Date Ready?

To make a good first impression on a date, remember to stand up tall and smile – this will help you exude confidence and maintain composure. Don’t try to be someone else, and always listen to the other person as it’s as much about getting to know them as it is about them getting to know you.

Cover the basics

Personal hygiene is really important, making sure your hair is in tip top condition and your breath smells good will make you feel your best. How you look physically says a lot about a person, and if you look after yourself – your skin, breath, nails – it will not only impact the way others see you, but the way you look at yourself – it gives you self-belief. 

Get the technique

If you’re in need of a confidence boost ahead of a big event or social occasion, try closing your eyes and visualising a time when you felt really confident while pinching your thumb and forefinger together. Repeat this routine several times a week in the lead up and by the time the moment comes; simply squeezing your fingers together will help you feel instantly in control and more confident.


Gemma Aldous

Celebrity Makeup-Artist

SMILE!

A smile is the best makeup anyone can wear, it’s the first thing that people see, so making the best of your smile is important. Lipstick is a great beauty hack to get that smile bright and white. If you want to bring out the natural whiteness in your teeth, choose bold blues, punchy plums and berry undertones to counteract the yellowness in your teeth. This creates an optical illusion, enhancing tooth whiteness. Avoid orange and brown undertones in pink lipsticks as this can bring out the yellow in your teeth.

Define

Line and define your lips to really draw attention to your smile. Using a highlighter or concealer pencil, simply trace around the edge of your lip line, making sure you emphasise the cupids bow. Accentuating your mouth shape, along with the right pop of colour, can really boost the shine in your teeth.

Give Tightlining a try

Tightlining works for all types of eyes, that’s the beauty of it. If you have smaller eyes, run a khol eye pencil across the eyelash line from the outer to the inner eye, covering all of those tiny pink bits. This will give the illusion of larger, brighter eyes and longer lashes.

Give Tightlining a try

Tightlining works for all types of eyes, that’s the beauty of it. If you have smaller eyes, run a khol eye pencil across the eyelash line from the outer to the inner eye, covering all of those tiny pink bits. This will give the illusion of larger, brighter eyes and longer lashes.

eye makeup

Make your skin glow

It’s so important to know your skin, treat it well and feed it what it needs. Drink plenty of water to keep your skin hydrated and ensure you always remove make-up before you go to bed. Having a good morning and night routine and using the right moisturiser for you will help keep your skin in top condition.


Alex Longmore

Stylist

Don’t cover up

I am really against ‘covering up’ parts of the body that people don’t like, camouflage and balance is key! For example, if you are unhappy with your legs, try wearing a dark colour on the bottom and draw the eye up with a bright blouse or jacket. Embrace what you love and extenuate that. This will ensure all eyes are drawn to your best bits, and you won’t even have to think about the rest.

Be picky with trends

Every style does not suit everybody. Comfort is key to feeling confident, so instead of jumping on a trend, try introducing it into your wardrobe subtlety to find out what works for you. For example, if floral prints are in, try working the pattern into your outfit with a bag, belt or tie, and see how you feel. That way, you can be on trend and feel in control of that trend.

Timing is everything

When planning an outfit for an interview, date or party, take your time in choosing something you really like and don’t wait until the last minute to choose your desired look.

If you go shopping in a rush, it will turn into a headache and you’ll come away with something less than perfect.

Make the most of your features

When you’re out shopping, find natural light and hold up different coloured materials to your face. This will help you identify the best colours to soften your features and even out your skin tone. Generally, wearing the same colours as your eyes softens your skin tone and  brings out your features, including your teeth, giving you that all important white smile. For mature skin, try wearing soft colours and fabrics closer to your face to soften your features. A pastel silk scarf in your favourite shade will work wonders for you.

Stock up on a staple

For a simple staple, choose a white shirt rather than a colour block or pattern – it will help make the white of your eyes and teeth stand out, giving you an overall smart and healthy appearance.

Take your time when choosing the fit – you want to consider your shape and also how you will be wearing it. Make sure you have the right neck size if you will be doing up the top button, and the right body length for tucking into trousers or leaving it untucked.

If you need a second layer, a white shirt can be paired with anything. Choose a leather jacket or pop a block colour jumper over the top to keep things causal, or pair with a well fitted blazer or suit jacket to dress things up.


Dr Luke Thorley

Dentist

Breathe confident

Patients who think they have unpleasant breath tend to come into the surgery with their heads stooped, chin down and their mouths partially covered with a hand or piece of clothing.

If this is you, remember that you’re not alone and shouldn’t be embarrassed. Dentists talk about this common problem all the time and have simple ways that can really help.  

My tips for ensuring breath confidence are maintaining a balanced and nutritious diet, staying hydrated and having a consistent oral hygiene regime, including using a specifically targeted mouthwash.

Know your breath

The best way to check your breath is to lick the inside of your wrist with the back part of your tongue and let it dry before smelling it – this will give you a true reflection of your breath freshness and how your breath comes across to others.